• When you are suffering for any reason, you mind races, which makes it harder to think clearly.
• Doing battle with your thoughts or suppressing them makes it all worse.
• Simply placing your attention on a specific sensation for a short time separates you from your racing thoughts.
• Your body also calms down, your thinking brain functions better, you can better engage in learning, and live your life with more clarity.

 Dr. Daniel Wegner out of Harvard, wrote a paper in 1987 called, Paradoxical Effects of Thought Suppression.¹  He demonstratedthat the more you try not to think about something the more you will think about it. The paper has been nicknamed, “White Bears.” This not news to any of us. But he also demonstrated that there was a trampoline effect, in that you think about it a lot more. When you frame this discussion in terms neurological circuits and programming this phenomenon becomes a huge problem. Disruptive thoughts progress with age.

A basic tenet of many Eastern philosophies is that worrying about the future and thinking about the past causes internal unrest. There is anxiety around the future and many regrets and frustrations about the past. Staying in the present moment is key, but how do you accomplish it?

You cannot control your mind with your mind. When your mind is racing your body will be tense and tight. The harder you try to calm down your thoughts, the faster your brain will spin. Neurological circuits are deeply embedded, especially the unpleasant ones you instinctively fight.

Active meditation

As you cannot fix, repair, or outrun them, one option is shifting from them to more functional and enjoyable circuits. This is quickly accomplished by focusing your attention on a specific sensation from your immediate surroundings. Any sense works – sound, smell, taste, feel, pressure, and sight. My term for this tool is “active mediation.” It is an abbreviated version of mindfulness, and you focus on any sensation for a few seconds up to a minute. You have connected your consciousness to the present moment. The intention is incorporating this practice frequently into your daily routine until it becomes habitual.

Three steps from Eastern philosophy.

• Relaxation
• Stabilization
• Focusing on a sensation

I learned them in a workshop given by Alan Wallace, a prominent researcher in integrating Buddhist contemplative practices with Western science.

Active meditation in practice

I practiced this daily during my hectic days at work. I often did it with my patients in clinic, especially if I was running behind. We sat back in our chairs, let our shoulders sag, jaws relax, took a long deep breath, and slowly let it go. (Relaxation). We stayed relaxed for 5-10 seconds (stabilization), while I had them listen to the ventilation system. Then our attention shifted to voices outside the door, our feet on the floor, and back to the vent. It took about a minute.

Invariably, everyone felt more relaxed and I heard my voice change to a softer pitch. Our attention had shiftedoff of racing thoughts to the current moment through sensory awareness. I encouraged them to do this often until became automatic.

You can also do this much faster for just three to five seconds. Simply engage with any sensation for short periods as often as possible throughout the day. During surgery, I would engage with active meditation with essentially every move I made.  My “go to” sensation was grip pressure on my surgical instruments. There is more feel and control with light touch. Eventually, the sensation and moves I made become so automatic that I developed a “safe zone”, and it would have required a conscious choice to be unsafe. The consistency of my performance improved my enjoyment of the day as well.

Listening

Another rendition of this tool is listening; I mean really listening in a way that you can visualize the other person’s perspective and realizing that the words they are saying mean something different to them than they do to you. It is remarkably more interesting to hear other’s perspectives rather than replaying your own.

The past is the past

You cannot change the past or control the future, and neurological circuits are permanently embedded. Tryingharder to analyze and fix them stimulates and reinforces these patterns (neuroplasticity). Going to battle with them is deadly. Simply shift your attention to any immediate sensory input. That is it and it is that simple.

Homework

1. Begin using this strategy right now. Sit back in your chair and let yourself relax from your head to toe. As you do this, focus on different sensations.
2. Then do this for 5-10 seconds through the day. Just let your attention land on a sensation while you continue your activities.
3. Keep doing this daily and indefinitely. With repetition, you’ll do this automatically. It is an important foundational tool on which to rebuild your nervous system.
4. Small calming steps add up, body chemistry shifts from threat to safety, and your neocortex (thinking centers) function better.
5. You cannot control your thoughts, but you can separate from them and redirect your focus.

References

1. Wegener, D.M., et al. Paradoxical effects of thought suppression. Journal of Personality and Social Psychology (1987); 53: 5-13.

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The nature of illness

All physical and mental symptoms are the result of you gathering data from your surroundings from different sensors, your brain interpreting the sum total as safe, neutral, or threatening, and then you automatically responding in a manner to ensure survival. You may or may not be aware of the reactions. They can be dictated by signals from chemicals, small proteins (cytokines) produced from your cells, signalers from the nervous system (neurotransmitters), or signalers from our glands running through our blood (hormones).

The term, “mind body” is not a useful term in that it implies that there is a separation between them. There is actually just you; one system that responds as a unit. Your nervous system, including your brain, is simply one of the many ways your cells communicate to coordinate your functions. The mind and the body are inaccurate constructs and distractions to understanding illness and disease compared to wellness and health.

Safety

With cues of safety from your environment, including your mind, your response will be signalers such as safety cytokines (anti inflammation and pr- anabolism), GABA (calm), acetylcholine (restoration), serotonin (contentment), dopamine (rewards), oxytocin (connection and bonding), growth hormone and growth factors (regeneration). The immune response will be strong yet inflammation low when stimulated by safety cytokines. Clinically the result is feeling less inflamed, less painful, relaxed, composed, present with a slower heart rate, blood pressure and breathing. The more time that can be spent in this regenerative state the better for health and wellness.

Your body’s goal is to survive. Defeating or dissipating threats and discord and maintaining safety and harmony to keep your range of behaviors and chemistry in a stable restorative and regenerative zone is key to thriving. The nociceptive (pain) and the emotion systems, both with and without awareness, guide you to take actions to avoid harm. When you experience an uncomfortable or unpleasant feelings from any source, it is simply signaling danger and then you can take appropriate steps to find safety.

Threat

Environmental cues of threat or internally generated ones are met with a defensive response including stimulation of your immune system with elevations of inflammation, elevated metabolism to provide fuel for defense, and increases in multiple stress signalers including the threat cytokines (IL1, IL6, IL17, TNF), inflammatory chemicals, (histamine, prostaglandins), mobilizing neurotransmitters (glutamate, dopamine, noradrenaline), and stress hormones (adrenaline, cortisol, aldosterone, vasopressin and endorphins).

Clinically, you are on “high alert” and there are numerous bodily responses to threat. The basic ones include an increased heart rate, rapid breathing, increased speed of nerve conduction (increases pain), elevated blood pressure, sweating, muscle tension, and a sense of danger that we call anxiety. There also numerous symptoms created by this physiological state. They include tension and migraine headaches, neck and low back pain, skin rashes, stomach cramps, depression, bipolar, burning sensations in various parts of your body, and there over 30 different responses. Although the chemical environment encompasses your whole body, each organ and organ system will manifest its unique response.

Symptoms, illness, and disease

 When the threat is transient or resolvable, there will be different physiology that will quickly abate the symptoms. When the threat is more prolonged, people will develop illnesses and diseases that, also, are reversible with appropriate treatment including the removal of threats and restoration of safety. When threat is sustained people can develop serious illness and diseases that may cause permanent tissue damage and create physical, mental and social havoc.

 What causes disease? There are two aspects consider.

• Your nervous system/ body
  • Your inherent coping skills
  • Your current state of reactivity influenced by diet, exercise, sleep, meds, etc.
• Your environment or perception of it
  • The magnitude and duration of threat – the inability to find safety

So, it is the interaction of the surrounding stressors with the human organism that determines the manifestation of physical and mental symptoms; illness and disease versus wellness and health.

The current state of “mainstream” medicine

Modern medicine has nullified these aspects of care in that we are not given the time nor are we encouraged to talk to our patients. From the beginning, we are not providing cues of safety. Then, we don’t know our patients and their coping capacity and really don’t know much about their environment. We are given only the time to treat symptoms. We are ignoring the root cause of the problem–total threat load. It is similar to putting out a major fire with a garden hose. It can’t and doesn’t work. Indeed, there is an ongoing and growing epidemic of chronic disease – both mental and physical, social and spiritual.

Solving our medical care crisis

Our medical care crisis could be solved with one simple move – significantly increase the reimbursement for talking to patients. This would allow a sense of safety, allow providers to assess both the patient and his or her surroundings, and direct them to resources to reduce the threats in their lives, improve safety,  coping and connection skills and provide tools to more effectively process their stresses.

The other half of the equation is to quit paying as much for procedures and also not reimburse for interventions that have been proven to be ineffective or damaging.

Addressing  root causes

A basic concept in extinguishing a fire is to deprive it of its fuel. Forest fires are the classic example. Fire breaks eliminate fuel and are only ineffective if the fire is so powerful as to jump over them. Fire retardants cover wood in a manner that it cannot be consumed. If water is used, it may be delivered in a mist, which helps lower the oxygen available. Water also removes heat. A carbon dioxide fire extinguisher displaces oxygen and suffocates it. The bottom line is that to fight a fire you have to address one of the root causes of it – oxygen, heat, or fuel.

Treating only symptoms is not only ineffective, the “fire” will continue to burn causing ongoing tissue damage. Successfully minimizing the impact of chronic illness requires minimizing the multitude of threats and maximizing access and opportunities for safety. coping and connection while also improving skills to better process toxic environmental inputs.

Summary

Every mental and physical symptom is created by the interaction between your surroundings and your body. Your body contains trillions of sensors that collect data that is sent to and processed by your central nervous system. Unpleasant sensations compel you to take action signaled by your brain and local tissues to resolve threat. Pleasant input causes you to take actions that are restful and regenerative.

The two factors creating symptoms and disease are you (and you coping capacity) and your surroundings (stressors). When you stresses overwhelm your coping capacity, you’ll experience symptoms, maybe become ill, or develop a serious disease. The solution lies in 1) increasing your coping capacity and 2) teaching you skills to more effectively process stress so it has less of an impact on your body, health, and sense of well-being. As you learn to regulate your body’s neurochemistry, you’ll have control, a sense of safety, and thrive. The DOC (Direct your Own Care) Journey presents a well-traveled sequence of lessons that will allow you to master these skills.

References

1. O’Neill Hayes, Tara and Serena Gillian. Chronic disease in the United States: A worsening health and economic crisis. Americanactionforum.org; September 10th, 2020.

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For some, the holidays are synonymous with a strong sense of familial closeness and love. However, this is not the case with many family gatherings, where relatives trigger each other, and chaos quickly ensues. If this describes your experience with the holidays, then this article is for you.

I’ll never forget one Christmas break during my second year in medical school. I hadn’t been home for two years because of study and work demands. I was excited to see my family. Within five minutes, my mother launched into a fight that had started two years earlier. She picked it up almost to the sentence. I was both dumbfounded and upset. This wasn’t part of my vacation plans.

This isn’t an uncommon occurrence.  You’ve waited all year to be with those who you love, and people aren’t getting along. It goes both ways in that loneliness is also magnified. The medical wards are usually full because many patients have increased problems around drugs and alcohol. It doesn’t make sense, except it does if you understand the mismatch between the conscious and unconscious brain and the nature of triggers. So what happens?  Happy holidays – not

Triggers

Any time you are anxious or angry, you’ve been triggered. Your nervous system has connected a current situation to a similar unpleasant past event. It doesn’t matter if the present or prior event represented a true threat. It just has to be perceived that way and the body will secrete stress hormones in its effort to resolve the problem. The sensation created by these chemicals is anxiety. Anxiety is the result of the reaction, not the cause. When you can’t solve the issue, more hormones are secreted, and you’ll become angry.

The reason why family dynamics can be so volatile, is that most of your reactions are programmed by your parents during the first 12 years of life, especially the first two. It matters little what your parents teach or preach; it’s their behaviors and attitudes that become embedded in your nervous system. If you have come from an abusive family, your reactions to the present will be intense, although the present “danger” might be minimal. It is well-documented in the ACE (adverse childhood experiences) studies that the incidence of chronic pain, anxiety, depression, obesity, heart disease and suicide are higher than the norm. You needed to be hypervigilant as a child and it doesn’t change as you age. You are and will continue to be hyper-reactive out of proportion to the circumstance. All of this is exacerbated in families dealing with chronic pain.

During the Holidays, you are around the sources of your triggers from your parents, siblings, children and other relatives. No wonder they can be problematic. Landmines are everywhere.

How did this happen? I watch parents with babies and young children laugh, hold and play with them. It’s a precious time and they would do anything for them. Yet by five or six years-old, there is often a lot of arguing and fighting between parents and children. Suffering from chronic pain doesn’t help. I don’t have to detail what frequently happens during the teen years. The household can be a battlefield — a war without any hope of an end. I don’t how common this scenario is, but I am seeing it frequently in my practice. I only need to ask a few questions and be observant. Many family situations are intolerable.

Learned behaviors

The problem is that we program our own triggers into our offspring. They watch their parents become upset with them or each other and they learn their own behaviors in response to similar stressors. Then they become the cause of deep reactions in their parents. Why else would you yell at this person who used to be this incredibly wonderful child you brought into this world? But you are the adult and you are now in the same boxing ring as your 12-year-old. It’s your role and responsibility to provide a safe environment where your family can feel safe and nurtured. Only then can your child connect with his or her creativity and thrive.

You also may be critical of them. Really?? Anytime you are critical of someone, you have projected your view of you onto them. Remember that you are the one who taught them these behaviors that are now upsetting to you. It is remarkable the number of friends we have whose parents continue to be incredibly critical of them well into adulthood. The negativity is often intense and occurs in the face of the son or daughter doing the best they can to help and be supportive. The intensity of the verbal barrage is unbelievable to me and seems to worsen with age.

So, you have planted your own landmines. Would you yell at a stranger with the same intensity that you talk to your child or spouse? How do you think you appear to them when you are upset? Is that what you want your children to see?

Now it’s the Christmas season, and these deep triggers are coming back into your world. You have missed your family and want to be with them. What are you going to do? How are you going to handle being triggered, because it is inevitable you will be set off at some level. The two faces of Christmas

Here are a few suggestions, most of which I have learned the hard way.

• Remember the problem with the strong familial triggers and concentrate on enjoying your family. Play may be challenging, but it’s also the reason you want to be with them.
• Don’t give any unasked-for advice. They have survived the year without you and have you ever heard of a child listening to a parent’s criticism at any age?
• Remember that when you are volunteering advice, you are really saying, “You aren’t good enough the way you are.” That is probably what your parents did to you when you were young. It’s also why most of us have the “not good enough” voice in our heads.
• Visualize yourself being angry and what your family is seeing when you’re in that state. Be the person you want others to be.
• If you get upset, quickly leave the room. Nothing is ever solved in a heated argument.
• Be curious and genuinely interested in what your family is up to.
• Don’t discuss your pain, medical care, politics, religion, or complain – about anything. After all, it is the season of joy regardless of your belief system.
• Read Parent Effectiveness Training by Dr. Thomas Gordon. It is a classic and the most influential book that I have ever read on any topic.

I want to re-emphasize the powerful irrational nature of being triggered. It is only you and not them that is responsible for your anger. (I well-know that it still feels like it is him or her that upset you). Own it. It is yours.

You’re the one who created the behavior in your child that is now upsetting you. Own that too! Remember how excited you were when they came into the world. Remember the good times and don’t spend time on past differences. Why? It’s done.

A Cigna insurance study in 2018 demonstrated about 40% of Americans feel socially isolated.(1) During my pain experience, loneliness might have been the one most crushing aspect of my ordeal. It was brutal. Connect with gratitude and remember how lucky you are to have friends and family. If you are someone reading this who is socially isolated, work on finding a way to re-connect with someone or give back. I am aware how terrible a feeling this is, and I’m really sorry. The Holidays do make it worse. But by being aware of the impact, you have a higher chance of dealing with it.

Make a commitment to enjoy your holiday season and if you detonate a landmine, use the situation as an opportunity to practice your own tools of staying connected and centered. Become the source of Holiday cheer!

1. Cigna U.S Loneliness Index (2018).

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